When we lump all of non-monogamy together we make it harder to understand how each different relationship structure functions. While everyone under the umbrella of “non-monogamy” might agree that monogamy isn’t the only way, how exactly we interact with others outside the bounds of monogamy varies from person to person and relationship to relationship.
We spend these last weeks of the year trying to set ourselves up for a great year. We talk about weight loss and career goals. We start planning and prepping and getting excited. If you’re like me you get obnoxiously excited about setting up… Continue Reading “Making Relationship Resolutions”
When it comes to talking about polyamory and commitment, we’re designing our forever.
We set a lot of relationship boundaries based on policing our own and our partners’ attraction to others. Regardless of our relationship structure – polyamorous, monogamous, swingers – both in terms of limiting and encouraging it, we have rules about attraction outside the relationship.… Continue Reading “Does Attraction to Someone Else mean Doom for your Relationship?”
We’re all moved in! And we’re all super excited about it. I’ve been thinking though, of what I might share about this process. What have we learned and what has made moving in as a pod different from when I moved in with Ben… Continue Reading “New Relationships, New Boundaries”
With Valentine’s day around the corner I wanted to put something out there: Polyamory is the belief that we can love more than one person. There’s no reason why the love you give to multiple people has to be any different than the fairy… Continue Reading “What Commitment means when you’re Polyamorous”
The very first question I get when I reveal to people that my husband and I are dating another married couple is….”How on earth does something like that develop!?” It’s a fair question, I mean when you’re married you aren’t exactly supposed to be… Continue Reading “Accidentally Polyamorous”