When we lump all of non-monogamy together we make it harder to understand how each different relationship structure functions. While everyone under the umbrella of “non-monogamy” might agree that monogamy isn’t the only way, how exactly we interact with others outside the bounds of monogamy varies from person to person and relationship to relationship.
They say attitude is everything and from school, to business, to relationships “they” might be on to something. When I read about other polyamorous relationships and the ideas behind polyamory a lot of the time the biggest lesson is accepting everything about your partner… Continue Reading “Love is Accepting your Partner, flaws and all”
We spend these last weeks of the year trying to set ourselves up for a great year. We talk about weight loss and career goals. We start planning and prepping and getting excited. If you’re like me you get obnoxiously excited about setting up… Continue Reading “Making Relationship Resolutions”
the ay we survive and the best advice I can give is simple: love first.
We set a lot of relationship boundaries based on policing our own and our partners’ attraction to others. Regardless of our relationship structure – polyamorous, monogamous, swingers – both in terms of limiting and encouraging it, we have rules about attraction outside the relationship.… Continue Reading “Does Attraction to Someone Else mean Doom for your Relationship?”
TL;DR: (Yeah, I had a lot to say here, #sorrynotsorry ) Be kind. To all of us. About our relationship. We like pizza and laughing so… less drama and more pizza please. When we came out we knew the news would be a surprise… Continue Reading “How to: Support your Poly Friends”
When it comes to essential oils I may be a casual user living among skeptics. I call myself a casual user because, as you likely know, there are people out there whose endorsement of essential oils would have us using them for literally everything.… Continue Reading “Essential Oils are Only a Drop in the Self-Care Conversation”
Happy Anniversary to the Pod! I love anniversaries. Honestly I love any excuse to celebrate and focus on the people I love just because I love them. Anniversaries, birthdays, Valentine’s Day… I’m a sucker for it all. I know lots of people kind of… Continue Reading “It’s been an Amazing Year”
There’s many conventions of dating that can change or shift when in a polyamorous relationship. Deciding to engage in a polyamorous relationship hasn’t taken away our favourite conventions from our days of monogamy but it has affected exactly what those conventions look like. For… Continue Reading ““Date Night” in the Polyamorous Life”
Sharing emotional responsibility was easy in a monogamous marriage. I could ask my husband to take some of the burdens if I was feeling less than peachy, and I could do the same for him. It felt like a normal part of a partnership… Continue Reading “Emotional Responsibility in Polyamory”