This post has been in the making for a while. Timing was key and it hasn’t been time to put it out there, until now.
When we lump all of non-monogamy together we make it harder to understand how each different relationship structure functions. While everyone under the umbrella of “non-monogamy” might agree that monogamy isn’t the only way, how exactly we interact with others outside the bounds of monogamy varies from person to person and relationship to relationship.
the ay we survive and the best advice I can give is simple: love first.
When it comes to talking about polyamory and commitment, we’re designing our forever.
We set a lot of relationship boundaries based on policing our own and our partners’ attraction to others. Regardless of our relationship structure – polyamorous, monogamous, swingers – both in terms of limiting and encouraging it, we have rules about attraction outside the relationship.… Continue Reading “Does Attraction to Someone Else mean Doom for your Relationship?”
Life has changed us, but our love remains constant. That’s what I mean when I say we are high school sweethearts.
We’re all moved in! And we’re all super excited about it. I’ve been thinking though, of what I might share about this process. What have we learned and what has made moving in as a pod different from when I moved in with Ben… Continue Reading “New Relationships, New Boundaries”
I noticed that I’d written two other “focusing on” titles, one for work and one for fitness. I thought I might as well round out the unintentional series with a few thoughts on finding focus in love. One of the major mental shifts in the… Continue Reading “Focusing on Love”
With Valentine’s day around the corner I wanted to put something out there: Polyamory is the belief that we can love more than one person. There’s no reason why the love you give to multiple people has to be any different than the fairy… Continue Reading “What Commitment means when you’re Polyamorous”
None of us are prone to jealousy and all of us understand our responsibility to cope with jealousy in a healthy way. Not being prone to jealousy doesn’t mean we’ll never look at our spouses with their boyfriend or girlfriend and think it might be nice… Continue Reading “What makes Polyamory work for Us”