I think it’s easy to do things with our partners because they make us feel safe. That’s why they became our partners, right? It’s part of loving each other to offer comfort and support to each other, and it’s easy to want to bring that comfort and support with you on new adventures. In a world where I have three partners who I enjoy spending time and trying new things with I have found the importance of remembering who I am when I’m on my own.
We’re all moved in! And we’re all super excited about it. I’ve been thinking though, of what I might share about this process. What have we learned and what has made moving in as a pod different from when I moved in with Ben… Continue Reading “New Relationships, New Boundaries”
I noticed that I’d written two other “focusing on” titles, one for work and one for fitness. I thought I might as well round out the unintentional series with a few thoughts on finding focus in love. One of the major mental shifts in the… Continue Reading “Focusing on Love”
With Valentine’s day around the corner I wanted to put something out there: Polyamory is the belief that we can love more than one person. There’s no reason why the love you give to multiple people has to be any different than the fairy… Continue Reading “What Commitment means when you’re Polyamorous”
None of us are prone to jealousy and all of us understand our responsibility to cope with jealousy in a healthy way. Not being prone to jealousy doesn’t mean we’ll never look at our spouses with their boyfriend or girlfriend and think it might be nice… Continue Reading “What makes Polyamory work for Us”
First and foremost: who are we? I am Carmen, and my husband is Ben. Maggie is my best friend turned girlfriend, and Tom is her husband. Tom and I are dating, as are Maggie and Ben. Confused yet, so were we! Polyamory is, at… Continue Reading “What Polyamory means to Us”
The very first question I get when I reveal to people that my husband and I are dating another married couple is….”How on earth does something like that develop!?” It’s a fair question, I mean when you’re married you aren’t exactly supposed to be… Continue Reading “Accidentally Polyamorous”