This post has been in the making for a while. Timing was key and it hasn’t been time to put it out there, until now.
When we lump all of non-monogamy together we make it harder to understand how each different relationship structure functions. While everyone under the umbrella of “non-monogamy” might agree that monogamy isn’t the only way, how exactly we interact with others outside the bounds of monogamy varies from person to person and relationship to relationship.
They say attitude is everything and from school, to business, to relationships “they” might be on to something. When I read about other polyamorous relationships and the ideas behind polyamory a lot of the time the biggest lesson is accepting everything about your partner… Continue Reading “Love is Accepting your Partner, flaws and all”
People tell us all the time they just couldn’t do what we do because they’d be jealous. We definitely understand that! Don’t think we never feel a little green. The secret is we handle it differently (or try to handle it differently) than we… Continue Reading “Polyamory: You have to have Humour”
We spend this week trying to set ourselves up for a great year. We talk about weight loss and career goals. We start planning and prepping and getting excited. Well, Wednesdays are my relationship post day so here’s a question: Do you have relationship… Continue Reading “Making Relationship Resolutions”
the ay we survive and the best advice I can give is simple: love first.
We set a lot of relationship boundaries based on policing our own and our partners’ attraction to others. Regardless of our relationship structure – polyamorous, monogamous, swingers – both in terms of limiting and encouraging it, we have rules about attraction outside the relationship.… Continue Reading “Does Attraction to Someone Else mean Doom for your Relationship?”
It’s kind of funny – as I write that title I’m like… uhh I can’t write this, I’m not a parent yet, duh! But then again, not being a parent, let alone a parent in a poly relationship, has not stopped a single person… Continue Reading “Poly and Parenting”
There’s many conventions of dating that can change or shift when in a polyamorous relationship. Deciding to engage in a polyamorous relationship hasn’t taken away our favourite conventions from our days of monogamy but it has affected exactly what those conventions look like. For… Continue Reading ““Date Night” in the Polyamorous Life”
Sharing emotional responsibility was easy in a monogamous marriage. I could ask my husband to take some of the burdens if I was feeling less than peachy, and I could do the same for him. It felt like a normal part of a partnership… Continue Reading “Emotional Responsibility in Polyamory”