When we lump all of non-monogamy together we make it harder to understand how each different relationship structure functions. While everyone under the umbrella of “non-monogamy” might agree that monogamy isn’t the only way, how exactly we interact with others outside the bounds of monogamy varies from person to person and relationship to relationship.
We set a lot of relationship boundaries based on policing our own and our partners’ attraction to others. Regardless of our relationship structure – polyamorous, monogamous, swingers – both in terms of limiting and encouraging it, we have rules about attraction outside the relationship.… Continue Reading “Does Attraction to Someone Else mean Doom for your Relationship?”
This past weekend Ben and I went on a little weekend getaway to Blue Mountain resort in Ontario. Since I share so much of our lives here I thought I’d share our vacation, too! We did things a little differently. Actually, going on vacation… Continue Reading “A Weekend Getaway to Blue Mountain”
TL;DR: (Yeah, I had a lot to say here, #sorrynotsorry ) Be kind. To all of us. About our relationship. We like pizza and laughing so… less drama and more pizza please. When we came out we knew the news would be a surprise… Continue Reading “How to: Support your Poly Friends”
This month I have enjoyed telling our love stories. From explaining what it means to me to call Ben my high school sweetheart to the personal growth I’ve found with Tom as my partner in adventure – it’s truly been a joy to reflect… Continue Reading “Maggie: My Best Friend”
This is the first pride month that I’ve been out as a bisexual woman, and of course, the first pride month that I’ve been out as polyamorous. We started our pride festivities with a wonderful Women in Power event at TD. A little… Continue Reading “Celebrating Love at Pride Toronto”
I know I grew up lucky, in some (ahem, many) ways. Many of my friend’s parents were divorced, and they moved between two separate homes. My parents were together. Perhaps even luckier for me, my parents were happy to be together. Parental yelling… Continue Reading “Unsolicited Relationship Advice”
I think it’s easy to do things with our partners because they make us feel safe. That’s why they became our partners, right? It’s part of loving each other to offer comfort and support to each other, and it’s easy to want to bring that comfort and support with you on new adventures. In a world where I have three partners who I enjoy spending time and trying new things with I have found the importance of remembering who I am when I’m on my own.
We’re all moved in! And we’re all super excited about it. I’ve been thinking though, of what I might share about this process. What have we learned and what has made moving in as a pod different from when I moved in with Ben… Continue Reading “New Relationships, New Boundaries”